Grief

 

Whatís the problem?

††††††††††† Something has occurred in your life that is negatively affecting you. At first, you feel a sense of numbness. This feeling can vary in duration from person to person. What lastís longer is the id the inability to concentrate. You may have trouble eating or sleeping. These are all normal parts of grieving.

 

What is Grief?

††††††††††† Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by a change or an end in a familiar pattern of behavior. Some losses could be the death of a loved one, divorce, moving, the death of a pet, or the loss of a possession. When you grieve, you may have conflicting emotions. For example, after a loved one dies of a terminal illness, you may eel relief because they are no longer in pain. However, you are still sad that they are gone.

 

Obvious and Hidden Losses

††††††††††† Death, divorce and moving are all losses that people often recognize as causing grief.† However, there are losses that cause grief that are hidden and not easily recognized. For example, loss of trust, loss of safety, or loss of control are events that happen in a persons life that can cause grief. These intangible losses arenít normally discovered until later in life through therapy.

 

Comparing Losses

††††††††††† All loss is experienced at 100 percent. There is not such thing as half grief. Never compare losses, and never compare or ignore feelings.